It's never been more clear to me how distant the administrative/business part of the health care system is from the actual care. This was made most evident today when my friend told me she received a call from a certain abortion/women's health clinic. They left a message basically saying they had over charged her $100. She received this call 6 months after her abortion.
She's been through hell and back. She said she felt like she was drowning in blackness. She couldn't feel anything but anger and sadness; the guilt was overwhelming. Nothing improved until September. Then she slowly made progress to be where she is today (or was before hearing the message). She said she had to achieve her goals: finish school, start her career, have a family when she was ready; not just for herself, but for her unborn baby. She said she owed her baby to make her life full, but not even that would ever make up for the decision she made.
Fast forward to the past month: I've never seen her happier. Of course she misses her baby, but she couldn't live in that place of mourning forever. She is surrounded by many very close friends who know all of the above, and still love her. She started dating a really nice guy. And then this.
I'm writing this for her, because she's still too fragile to do it herself. She doesn't deserve to be judged by outsiders who don't what it was like. Not even I can comprehend. No one will ever be able to judge her as harshly as she has judged herself.
So here I am sticking up for her and expressing my own anger at insensitivity of the administrative portion of this business. 6 months later. The very same month of her now non-existent due date. December 17th.
Who in the world would really want that money anyway?
She certainly doesn't.
There is no price for making this better.
Now she has to relive it.
And when that check comes, she has to see the man who disappeared after the abortion (after promising not to) to give him his half.
The whole situation is unfair, but this is just cruel.
