For Your Entertainment

"Get ready to shake your ass and feel sexy. That's what the album's really about." - Adam Lambert

Yes I know I've talked about Adam Lambert before. I can't help that I love this song though. It's the kind of song that I listen to while I'm getting ready aka in my underwear. I call it the sex song...because that's what it's about.

I'd be lying if I said that hasn't been on my mind lately. (this is where it gets interesting for you)

There's this preconception that guys think about sex more than girls or want it more than girls. Personally I don't think that's true. I think it's just been a taboo subject for females for so long that it's taking awhile for us to be comfortable enough to talk about it like guys do...but we're not guys, so there are some differences.

(I wrote the part above yesterday, but wasn't sure if I should put it up or not. So today I decided, why not?)

Now...I certainly don't have For Your Entertainment stuck in my head anymore. Just 25 more days until the next full moon though. I'm back into my Michael Buble/Owl City/Colbie Caillat music. Although tonight I came home and rocked out to Atreyu.

So I was thinking, while taking a walk with my puppy today (odd combination I know), sex is almost always reliant on the girl. The girl always has her boundaries. There are some who won't have it until they're married (huge mistake in my opinion), there are those who will have it with many people (either insecure or a pretty free individual, and then there are a bunch more in the middle. Hooking up can be alright. I suppose it depends on where you are with life. I would never recommend it for girls who are virgins though.

I guess there's just one of the many perks of being in a relationship: regular sex. Yup I said it. You have to have an emotional connection, but also that primal urge. Lots of people talk about emotional sex and listening to Michael Buble to set the mood etc. I kind of think that's bull. Sex is about feeling good physically. Not thinking. That can be difficult for women because we think so much, but definitely possible. Once you get past that first time (whether it's first time ever or with a new guy), it usually gets better (one hopes!). Less thought and more feeling comfortable for the woman.

Another interesting thought: I heard somewhere (can't remember where) that the need to pee for a woman after sex is the body's way of flushing out the sperm, but biologically speaking doesn't the female body want to produce and therefore want to keep the sperm? Meanwhile the male wants to spread the seed to make sure the genes are passed on. I suppose that makes sense biologically. Since the guy isn't carrying the baby, he wouldn't necessarily know if the genes belong partly to him. It would be an adequite reason for cheating if we didn't have minds to rationalize with. They make cheating not okay.

In my Nature/Nurture class we learned that men are more likely to cheat for the physical connection, whereas women are more likely to cheat for the emotional connection. It makes sense (with out the rational brain part). Men's genes want to be passed on and if they're not with someone that they're sure about -->cheating. Women's genes know they are being passed on when impregnated, but need to make sure the man will be there to help and ensure success for their gene baby. Then you add love and the rational mind and it get's all mixed up, but one thing is for sure. Cheating is bad. Don't do it. I know I never could.
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On a separate note, I just saw a preview for a chick flick that looks pretty great. Then I saw it comes out 2 days before valentines day...yeah...no. That's a movie that you go to with your girl friends and then go to dinner and comfort yourselves by complaining about men or your incredibly amazing boyfriend takes you, because that's just how much he loves you. Lets be honest, most guys don't like chick flicks and would rather cut themselves or something. Very few enjoy some of them and only a few more than that are willing to go to one with their girl. I do know a couple like that though! As for me: 1 I don't like to complain about guys or be bitter and I don't have a reason to. 2. I don't have a boyfriend. I guess I'll be waiting until the end of February to see it.

I dunno if you can tell but I'm not a big fan of Valentines day. I like to say it's because it's just a hallmark holiday. It's kind of true, but I've felt this way about it for a very long time. I don't know why. I used to be happy with getting chocolate from my dad (still am), but something happened in Tennessee that changed my opinion of the day...or maybe I started growing up and realized it was a romantic day, not just a chocolate day. I tend to avoid going out that day and eat lots of chocolate, while watching chick flicks and grumble. Last year I came home for that weekend and went to a hockey game, hoping that I would just be able to focus on attractive men. Nope. Maybe sometime my feelings for the day will change. I certainly hope so.