Sex and the City: The Beginning

I've decided to write about each episode of the TV show, Sex and the City. The movie was more like a fairytale than the show, although some aspects of the show are also based on fantasy (it is a tv show after all). However, I have found that I can relate many of the episodes to my own life. Perhaps that's because there is a lot of drama when it comes to men and relationships in my own life. I suppose it's exciting? Personally I'd like for it to calm down and be a lot less complicated.

So anyway, here we go: Episode 1.

It starts with a seemingly fairytale couple who seem perfect for each other. Eventually they start looking for an apartment and he invites her over for dinner with his parents. Then he cancels and disappears completely.

Can't say that I've experienced that (luckily!). I've heard stories though and I'm sure it has happened. Unfortunately men freaking out about relationships or getting serious is not an uncommon phenomena (women do it too). In fact I was talking with a friend about this over dinner tonight. It's quite common for men to play it safe in the "gray area," especially after experiencing some bad relationships.

For one, it drives me crazy. When a guy invites you over and then you call the next morning to confirm and he says "if you want to," it's quite frustrating. I know I wear my heart on my sleeve more than a lot of people do, but can't you at least try to say "yes, it would be awesome if you came over" or even just "yes" would do (in response to "should I come over now?"). If you like the person and you know they like you, you're more likely to get hurt by playing it safe because eventually they'll move on thinking you don't really care. Then once again it's a shitty ending. It's not necessary.

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"Welcome to the age of un-innocence. No one has breakfast at Tiffany's and no one has affairs to remember. Instead we have breakfast at 7 A.M. and affairs we try to forget as quickly as possible. Self protection and closing the deal are paramount. Cupid has flow the co-op. How the hell did we get into this mess?" -Carrie

It's true. Love is often sugar coated (X 10 in the movies), but there's a lot of choice in how jaded we let ourselves become with our own love lives. I could choose to never trust anyone because my birth parents left me. 'If I can't trust my biological family who can I trust' type thing. I don't live like that though. I have a good friend finding sense and I think I'm pretty good with my choice in men even if my parents disagree. So in conclusion, it doesn't have to be so depressing.

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Curt Harrington was Carries repeat attachment. For sure I have experience there. Fortunately mine was not a douche. She decided to try an experiment and "have sex like a man" aka have sex without attachment and leave. She felt powerful at first (afterward) then they ran into each other and he was glad she finally understood the kind of "relationship" he wanted. So basically it backfired. Repeat attachment? Yeah. Having sex like a man? Definitely not.

Then Mr. Big enters the picture. After a couple of accidental run ins, she finds herself having to walk home and being rescued by him. "I get it, you've never been in love." That's his response to Carrie talking about having sex like a man. I must admit I don't know very many guys who have that attitude, but they do exist.

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The "nice" guy- Carrie hooks her nice friend up with Miranda because she felt bad for him. Of course Miranda is the one in the group who hates men. Somehow she's taken in by his pathetic demeanor. This is not to say nice guys have a pathetic demeanor. I know some who are not like that at all. Then there are some who are really sweet, but have been manipulated or hurt by a woman and decide to hide it. This is the case the majority of the time. It makes it harder for those of us who aren't those kind of women to prove that we aren't like that.